When I ask single people why they think they’re still unattached, I’m bombarded with a “wish list” as thick as the Bible. “He must have a good job, ambition, nice ride, penthouse condo, eight hundred credit score, no kids, blah-blah-blah”. And when I follow up with, “so, you possess all those traits, right”, I’m looked at like I have horns protruding from my forehead.
Really?
Are so arrogant that you can have so many requirements yet you’re lacking in all those areas.
I must admit, I’m guilty of this myself! I recently had to take a long, hard look at myself and revaluate my own expectations.
Let’s face it, most of us have been burned and heartbroken; this is, most likely, the cause of our crass attitudes toward the opposite sex. Not all men are cheating, insensitive bums; don’t prejudge because you still may be a little bitter. (Note to self).
I read somewhere recently, that we usually attract people that are just like us. In other words, if you lack ambition and drive you will, almost certainly, attract those that are unambitious and undriven. OUCH! Clearly, this is not always accurate but it does give you something to think about.
It’s okay, and necessary, to be selective in your choices. Just keep in mind; dating should be fun, so go out having no expectations. Enjoy the conversation, along with a great meal, and let the chips fall where they may.
Don’t go into it thinking he could possibly be your future hubby and father to your kids; you’re making it too complicated. No man wants to feel as though he has to commit before the end of the night. It takes time to get to know someone, so leave the baggage behind and see what happens.
There is nothing wrong with being single, trust me; I actually prefer it, less stress.
Take the time to get to know you. Find a new hobby. Start a new business. Do something to redirect your thoughts if you find it (single life) hard.
Back to the basics:
No sex talk, it’s far too soon for that. If he brings it up, RUN, he’s only looking for a hook up.
Don’t bring up personal topics (where you work, live, go to church). He could be a stalker.
Keep the convo light-hearted and fun.
Do not show too much skin, you don’t want to come off as, easy.
If he doesn’t show you the upmost respect, move on to the next.
That’s what dating is all about; have fun and take things slow!
Happy Dating!
Really?
Are so arrogant that you can have so many requirements yet you’re lacking in all those areas.
I must admit, I’m guilty of this myself! I recently had to take a long, hard look at myself and revaluate my own expectations.
Let’s face it, most of us have been burned and heartbroken; this is, most likely, the cause of our crass attitudes toward the opposite sex. Not all men are cheating, insensitive bums; don’t prejudge because you still may be a little bitter. (Note to self).
I read somewhere recently, that we usually attract people that are just like us. In other words, if you lack ambition and drive you will, almost certainly, attract those that are unambitious and undriven. OUCH! Clearly, this is not always accurate but it does give you something to think about.
It’s okay, and necessary, to be selective in your choices. Just keep in mind; dating should be fun, so go out having no expectations. Enjoy the conversation, along with a great meal, and let the chips fall where they may.
Don’t go into it thinking he could possibly be your future hubby and father to your kids; you’re making it too complicated. No man wants to feel as though he has to commit before the end of the night. It takes time to get to know someone, so leave the baggage behind and see what happens.
There is nothing wrong with being single, trust me; I actually prefer it, less stress.
Take the time to get to know you. Find a new hobby. Start a new business. Do something to redirect your thoughts if you find it (single life) hard.
Back to the basics:
No sex talk, it’s far too soon for that. If he brings it up, RUN, he’s only looking for a hook up.
Don’t bring up personal topics (where you work, live, go to church). He could be a stalker.
Keep the convo light-hearted and fun.
Do not show too much skin, you don’t want to come off as, easy.
If he doesn’t show you the upmost respect, move on to the next.
That’s what dating is all about; have fun and take things slow!
Happy Dating!